I think Demi Lovato is one of the most inspiring pop idols that there are in the world. And as I said a time ago she gives some really good advice in her book; ‘Staying Strong 365 days a year.’
The advice she gave today is;
Every life has a purpose. Share your story and you may help someone find their own. -Demi Lovato
I thought I should do something with that. Because I do think that everyone’s here for a reason. No one lives a life unnoticed. And even when people think they are living a life like that, they’re not. Everyone helps the world in their own way, that’s what makes every person special.
So I thought I could start with telling my own story.
No I haven’t had a disorder like Demi or something like that. My life is extremely ordinary. But I’ve had some lucky days and bad days in my life. Just like everyone else. Everybody has some days of glory or shame but we never really stay the same during our life.
Things change us. Sometimes people who meet change us. Things that we’ve been through were so good or affecting that they changed you forever. But should we stay the same for our hole life? I don’t think so. I believe it’s a good thing that people grow and change bit by bit.
Because change is often development. And we need that in the world.
But once in a while it’s easy to get caught up in other peoples life that you don’t recognize yourself after a while. And we shouldn’t let that happen.
Society shouldn’t try to change us, every person is special in it’s own way. And we all know how hard it is to learn what’s special about yourself.
That’s what I really want to talk about today. I was always trying to be the strong person. I was putting up this wall and everybody thought it was the real me. I acted that I didn’t really need friends because I didn’t had anyone that was really close to me. I just didn’t know what real friendship is, and what it could do to you. But when you grow up, you notice the fake people and friends. And all you have to decide at that point is what you really want. 100 fake friends or 5 real ones. My choice was made easily.
And because of the people who I let in, I became the bigger and stronger person than I was before. Not because I needed to act that way, but because I didn’t have to fake it anymore. I don’t know if anyone of you has ever gone through something like that, but I can assure you it’s a damn good feeling.
So now I am slowely taking the wall down and showing people who I really am. And it’s like I can breathe again. And some people don’t even notice it, but the change is there. It’s in the way I act, talk and love.
That’s why I think being brave and fearless is all about, daring to be your true self.
See you soon.
-Paulien